Sometimes it’s best not to ruin a good thing….

by Poi on November 22, 2011

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It’s always said that sometimes the best memories aren’t worth spoiling. That sounded kind of stupid to me. Surely if you love something or a place only good can come from enjoying it over and over again.

At least that’s how I felt until my recent couple of visits to Chiang Mai.

Zorb Balling at the X-centre in Chiang Mai, Thailand

We did a lot of fun things whilst we were in Chiang Mai last year

As I’m sure many of you know we spent three months living there over Christmas last year.  We had a wonderful time and loved everything and everyone to do with the place. We created so many memories, we were there for Yee Ping Festival, it was where Kirsty found her passion for Iberry and there is such a great community there.

Since then I have visited again twice for a week at a time and although it was nice going to my favourite fruit shake vendor, favourite bar, favourite restaurant and many more, by the end each week I’d had enough and didn’t feel the same charm I got whilst living there. I was bored, we had done all this before…

Chiang Mai would have been the easy option for us to hide away from the floods at home in Bangkok, accommodation is cheap along with everything else you need to survive but when Kirsty suggested it I had to say no. I’ve had enough of the place and don’t fancy returning anytime soon.

Egg Salad Sandwich - Free bird cafe - Chiang Mai, Thailand

Yummy lunch at Freebird

Perhaps it’s just because we now have an end date for our trip and I want to see as many places as possible or maybe it’s the simple fact I’m bored of the northern capital and don’t want to ruin any more memories. Whichever it is I’m currently lacking any desire to go back there anytime soon.

It’s nothing personal to you Chiang Mai, you just happened to be the place I lived and tried to recreate my stay with a couple of times, it could have been anywhere.

We chose instead to head down to Koh Phi Phi for a week and despite the huge difference in the cost of living we loved it and now understand why so many people love the islands in the South.

We returned home yesterday, Pinklao is officially dry – unfortunately Kirsty’s school isn’t – where should we go next?


{ 21 comments… read them below or add one }

Jaime November 22, 2011 at 10:33 pm

Wait a second… did I know you have an end date for the trip now? When did that happen? I feel like I am out of the loop… not that I need to be in it at all, but wow. I didn’t know that. Hope everything is okay.

About that feeling I think it happens to all of us. I keep talking about how I love Nicaragua and Playa del Carmen and I am scared if I do go back it won’t be the same.


Poi November 23, 2011 at 1:37 pm

We’ve had an end date to leave Bangkok for a while…. but now we’ve had some exciting news that will keep us at home for a while….. (no one knows about it yet!!!)


Dad November 23, 2011 at 3:29 am

Change of retirement plans for us now then son. Just when I was getting your mother use to the idea. Hehe


Poi November 23, 2011 at 1:37 pm

Well if you guys were there – we would be in a second!


Ali November 23, 2011 at 11:47 pm

I’m with Jaime, didn’t realize you guys had an end date. Looking forward to hearing what the big secret is, whenever you decide to reveal it!


Kirsty November 24, 2011 at 4:16 pm

It’s not so much an end date but a delay on the next big adventure… man this is sounding more and more cryptic!!


Audrey November 24, 2011 at 2:59 am

I’m big on revisiting places, but I think the reason that they don’t often loose their charm on me is that they are big enough to find something new to see or do. 😀

I hope you guys enjoyed Koh Phi Phi!


Kirsty November 24, 2011 at 4:15 pm

Yeah – we’ve lived in BKK for 8 months now and still finding new stuff all the time!!

We loved it, so much so we dragged our friends there for a second week!


Sarah November 24, 2011 at 4:07 pm

I guess that’s also what they (who is “they” anyways?) mean when “they” say “you can never go back.”

It is really hard to try and recreate certain experiences, regardless how awesome they were! And instead, your only option is to create new (and potentially just as exciting) experiences in other places!

Oh yes, and the vagueness of your big secret is appealing…


Kirsty November 24, 2011 at 4:13 pm

I totally agree with recreating new experiences, I think even when you are travelling you sometimes go to what is comfortable rather than what is right 🙂

And… Oh dear… I feel I have built this up a little much already!!!


Angela November 26, 2011 at 6:50 pm

Maybe you just need to wait a bit longer before going back to Chiang Mai and it might surprise you again 🙂


Poi November 29, 2011 at 4:35 pm

Probably! I’m sure if we returned in a couple of years we would feel very different


Scott - Quirky Travel Guy November 29, 2011 at 10:40 am

I can definitely relate to wanting to see as many places as possible before the end of the trip. It’s tough to balance that with the desire to stay somewhere you really like.


Poi November 29, 2011 at 4:36 pm

It really is!


Jerry Hingle December 3, 2011 at 1:30 am

You can’t relive memories; the experience is usually too different when you’re traveling. But I can understand how you might want to try. Good luck with your future travels!


Poi December 7, 2011 at 2:46 pm

Thanks Jerry and you’re very right!


Aussie on the Road December 10, 2011 at 11:47 am

I know what you guys mean.

I made the conscious decision to not go back to the city I’d lived in and loved in South Korea for two years.

I headed back this year in January and chose an entirely new city. I didn’t want to taint any of my fonder memories.


Poi December 12, 2011 at 11:09 am

I think you definitely went about this the right way, unfortunately for us we didn’t and ruined it for ourselves a bit.


Stephanie - The Travel Chica December 21, 2011 at 8:01 pm

Interesting article. I have been debating returning to a couple of places that have been very special to me, but I have some worries that it won’t be as good and that it might somehow taint the original experience. Guess there is only one way to find out 🙂


Anthony December 22, 2011 at 5:41 pm

I am here to lick Chiang Mai’s wounds, after you have rejected it 🙂


Poi December 23, 2011 at 11:35 am

We didn’t reject it Anthony, just moved on a little bit.

I know you’ll enjoy it as much as we did when living there! Now go do the bungee and zorb balling and mountain biking and and and…..


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