The last few days there have been some negative thoughts running though my head. In fact, Let’s get straight to the point, I’ve been thinking about leaving Kirsty.
What has she done you ask? Well nothing. I love her and things are as good as ever but a new world was opened up to me this past week and it seems like a lot of fun.
That’s right, I’m going to be….wait for it…. A Porn Star!
Obviously I’m kidding, no one wants to see that and I wouldn’t suddenly join the adult film industry just because she’s gone for a week. No, I want to be a solo traveller.
Last week I went for a little getaway in Malaysia. Previously the only other time I have travelled by myself was to Laos, unfortunately those few days were taken up filling out paperwork in the not so exciting capital of Vientiane. This time however was different, it was a ‘proper’ holiday from my holiday.
Despite my concerns of wandering the streets alone everyday for a week It was not to be. It would seem these lonely souls promoting solo travel aren’t lying. It really is easy to make friends when travelling by yourself, easier I would say than as a couple. The interactions can come from anywhere: You speak to one person, who’s spoke to someone else, who shares a dorm with some other people and before you know it you’re in a group of people all looking to make the most of the short time in whereeverthehellyouare.
But why is it so different when travelling as a couple?
Perhaps it’s because we unintentionally hide ourselves away. Although we use dorm rooms occasionally private rooms can work out cheaper so make more sense.
It’s not just about where we sleep either, I noticed being solo meant that I spent more time around the hostel than normal had I been with Kirsty. Not hiding in my room but reading outside or typing away in the common room gave me the opportunity to meet more people. Being alone I was a lot more willing to abandon my plans for company and like most people travelling solo you welcome that company with open arms.
It would also seem true that couples are not as approachable, all my new friends on this trip stemmed from one girl shouting “hello” across to my table. Apparently this was a habit she had picked up a few days into her solo trip and being friendly and forward had won her a lot of friends.
“Would you have just started speaking to me like that if I had been sitting with my girlfriend” I asked.
“Probably not” was just the answer I expected and received.
Everyone worries about interrupting something important when approaching a couple, are they in the middle of an argument? Is this a special occasion? and it doesn’t get any easier being a fellow couple.
“We’re a couple, you’re a couple – Let’s do it!”
We still feel awkward jumping in on a conversation between two other people. The truth is we should make more of an effort, after all what’s the worst that can happen? They tell us to “piss off” and we brawl.
Unfortunately for all you lovers out there Kirsty and I will have to wait to begin our two on two action as she’s still hiding away from me in the UK. Until then it looks like I’ve got it easy living the bachelor life for a little while longer.
Although, thinking about it, I certainly found it easier making friends by myself which proves there is nothing wrong with me, maybe Kirsty is just not very likeable? So logically there is only one thing for me to do, ditch the misses and hit the road by myself.
First I just need to make sure she’s willing to carry on managing my finances…